Grace for the Hard-Hearted
My soul heard
it. And oh, how I longed to. But I
wasn’t sure if I could.
I could feel
myself putting distance between my heart and the Lord. I knew my heart was looking to things of the
earth to comfort, distract, and numb me.
I lowered my eyes from Him – afraid to look at Him. Afraid to hear from Him, I could sense myself
plug my ears and sing “la, la, la, la.” Afraid to have Him mold my heart, I hid
it – I refused to let Him – hardening my heart. The ache in my heart and the
sinful nature of my flesh whispered “He can’t be trusted.”
This is not what
“fear the Lord” means. This, I know, is the wrong kind of fear.
But my pride was
hurt. It didn’t seem like God cared
about what my plans were. It seemed like
no matter how much I put my trust in Him, I couldn’t escape the pain of a story
I never wanted to live. I think some
part of me had believed that if only I could praise Him in the hard times, if
only I could trust that God would bring beauty from the suffering – He would either
start writing a different story or comfort me in the way I wanted to be
comforted, so that I could somehow bear up under the weight. But He has continued to allow, time after
time, this to be part of my story. He has continued to allow, time after time,
this cancer to be a part of my mom’s story.
This is the thorn in our side that He doesn’t remove, and He says His
grace is sufficient.
And He didn’t
comfort me in the way my heart wanted.
In fact, He allowed me to enter into the trenches of cancer battles with
many others. He allowed me to come face
to face with many a last breath. He allowed me the sacred opportunity of
holding the hands of the dying and to whisper a quick prayer – simple words –
just a crying out to the Lord for His mercy, for Him to come, for comfort for
the sobbing family. And each time, my
mind would go back to her – I’d see her face – and my heart would harden
more. Resistant. Defiant.
Refusing to invite God into the hurt.
If anyone asked
how I was – I’d claim that it was what it was – that it’s become part of my
normal. But truthfully, at times, that’s
what makes it hurt all the more. The
fact that this was something that she’s had to face since I was 15 breaks my
heart. Sometimes it feels like it’s too
much, and my heart longs for something different.
“Return to me,
Ashley.”
I would hear it
often. But I’d look at the amount of
work I had to do, and I’d look at the clock.
So I’d quickly read His Word just to say I’d spent time with Him, and
push it away to drudge through the busy work of nursing school. I knew I wasn’t really spending time with the
Lord – just reading to say I’d done it.
My heart was removed. My mind
preoccupied with other things – anything else.
And I hated
every moment of it. My journal was filled
with pleas for the Lord to awaken my heart again to His glory. I’d cry out for Him to remind me of His
goodness. I confessed to Him the state
of my heart and ask Him to help me to return to Him – I prayed for Him to
soften my heart. I knew that this was
not His desire for me – to be far from Him, afraid to spend time with Him. He desires to be near, He desires to speak to
me, He desires for me to cast my cares on Him.
He is not too great to care about
the anxieties of my heart; He is too great not to care. My disgust at the state of my heart, my
knowing that this was not His desire, knowing the truth of Him desiring
relationship – it was all grace. He was
gifting me with this knowledge in the midst of me trying to numb myself to His
truth.
I knew that I
would need to process things with Him. I
knew that I needed to sit down and lay all my worries out on the table. I knew that the disappointment in my heart
needed to be hung out to dry. But I kept
telling myself “once I’m done with this crazy week.” And I’d just continue on.
Yet, His grace
sustained me. His grace got me
through. His mercy, kindness, and
patience have astounded me. I look back
on this semester and see a broken shell of a person carried through by a
faithful and perfect Papa who knows each aching heart so intimately. And that causes my heart to shatter - His
grace chiseling my hard heart – revealing a heart of flesh. It causes humble tears to stream down my face
in the middle of a coffee shop as I write this.
I deserve it not. I recognize
this now. After a morning of reading His
word and seeing again and again a loving Father call out to His beloved
children to “return to me” – how can I not?
And even in the
return – even in the coming home to a good, good Father, I can’t take any
credit for it. He is the good Shepherd
who has come to rescue me. He has come
after me – pursuing me even as I’ve turned away and begun to worship the gods
of comfort, of approval of man, of self-sufficiency. He has spoken tenderly to my heart. He has caused me to again seek His face, and
He has allowed me to find it. It’s all
Him. He is that good.
“Remember these things, O Jacob, and
Israel, for you are my servant; I formed you; you are my servant; O Israel, you
will not be forgotten by me. I have blotted out your transgressions like a
cloud and your sins like a mist; return to me, for I have redeemed you.” Isaiah
44:21, 22
Remembering His grace enables us to
repent. Setting our minds on what Christ has done for
us on the cross causes us to tremble in humility – knowing full well that in
our sinful natures, we deserved to die that kind of death. We have nothing within us that will earn our
way to a right relationship with a holy God.
It had to be paid for by someone who was holy Himself. And so Jesus humbled Himself - a holy God-Man. He stooped low, took our sins upon His
shoulders, and hung on that cross willingly – though He did nothing to deserve
it. His love for us motivated Him. May we be motivated by this grace – something
we did nothing to deserve – to repent of our sinful, rebellious ways and return
to our Lord. To come before Him –
trembling in the right kind of fear – and acknowledge that He alone is God. That He is perfect in all His ways. May we continuously remember that His ways and
thoughts are higher than ours.
Even if I have
to lay prostrate before my Father and ask Him to be my strength through the
refiner’s fire – I take comfort in knowing that He desires to relate with
me. He doesn’t mind if I’m real with
Him. He doesn’t mind if I tell Him I’m
weary, scared, and don’t understand, with tears in my eyes, and my hands
shaking. He just wants me to come to
Him. To return to Him. To be in His presence. And this is good news. Because, I want that, too. I don’t want to pretend I can do this life on
my own. I don’t want to pretend like I
have the answers. I don’t want to rely
on my own strength and knowledge. I
don’t want to ignore the One who has given me the greatest love I’ll ever
experience. I want to dwell in the house of the Lord forever. I want to taste and see that the Lord is
good. I want to put my trust in the
person of Christ and look to the Rock that is higher than I. I want to climb up on my Papa’s lap in prayer
and confess that I am simply a weak and weary sinner saved by His grace, and
for that I’m so incredibly thankful.
He gives grace
for me to breathe out praise as my heart breaks. And I’m learning that that alone is
enough. He isn’t a magic 8-ball or a
genie that I can play games with: if I do this, then He owes me that. No, friends.
He is God. He is Lord. And His will is perfect. Not that He doesn’t
care and won’t bless me. But no matter
what He does or does not do in my life, the fact is He’s already done more for
me than I deserve. The fact is that my
hope rests in the very person of Christ – not in what Christ can do for
me. So no matter how many times my heart
is struck with the arrows of disappointment, I can trust in Jesus to be exactly
who He says He is. And I can trust that –
because of Jesus – no matter how many times my wandering heart convinces me to
distance myself, He will call out to me to return to Him. I can trust that He won’t give up on me. And the same goes for you, dear friend. Whatever hurt you may have, whatever fears
you may be crippled by – He cares and He is calling out to you to return to
Him. No matter what this world says – no
matter what your sinful nature may whisper to you – no matter the subtle
attacks from the enemy: He can always be trusted.
“‘Come, let us return to the LORD; for he
has torn us, that he may heal us; he has struck us down, and he will bind us
up.’” Hosea 6:1.
“He himself bore our sins in his body on
the tree, that we might die to sin an dlive to righteousness. By his wounds you
have been healed. For you were straying like sheep, but have now returned to
the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.” 1 Peter 2:24,25
“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the
mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all
your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:6,7
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